From a very early age, we've been taught to set goals. If we know what our goals are, we always know where we are going, we know our direction.
There is nothing wrong with goals. Okay, first of all, the word a GOAL. Let’s do one exercise. Say a loud GOAL. How does it feel when you say it loud? Does it feel light or heavy? If it feels light, then it's Okay, it means that it’s true for you. If it feels heavy, then replace the word GOAL with the synonym that feels light to you. It could be a TARGET. Does a TARGET feel light or heavy? If it doesn’t feel light, search for another word that will represent your goals. You can come up with your own word :) – I would be really happy if you could share it with me in the comments below :)
Okay, now we have decided which word will represent our goals. Let's take a look at some essential lessons about manifestation process.
♥ LESSON NUMBER 1 ♥
If you are not the beginner in the manifestation process, you know very well the importance of deciding what are your dreams, desires, what we want… - your TARGETS. Don’t forget to dream big!!
| A goal should scare you a little and excite you a lot. (Joe Vitale) |
If it doesn’t scare you, you are not thinking big enough. Everyone has come to this beautiful planet called the Earth with a purpose to do big things, wonderful things! Unfortunately, the ability and the belief to do them are taken away from us at the very beginning of our experience on the Earth as human beings.
It is said that in the first 7 years of our life, we are like sponges, absorbing everything we see and everything we hear, whether it’s being communicated directly to us or not. And based on all the data that goes into our minds during that time, we begin to form all kind of ideas, beliefs and perceptions about who we are, how much we are worth, about how hostile or loving the world around us is, and about how hard or easy it is to create an abundant life. We were influenced by culture, country, race, language, upbringing, genetics, our parents, in what city we lived in, where we went to school, who our first best friend was, the placement of the moon, sun and the planets at the time of our birth, our mothers' experience at our birth, our experience in the womb, our past lives, our past incarnations in other realms in the spirit world, our parents and siblings past lives...
| Most beliefs we didn't consciously choose - and some of these we didn't even directly experience! Most of them we've inherited and absorbed. We carry around many of beliefs and experiences about life that aren't even ours. We are full of baggage that mostly doesn't belong to us! What is more, most of what we've inherited and absorbed is NEGATIVE. All these take away our dreams, take away our desire to fight for our dreams, to try to make them happen. |
Manifestation process begins whit the determination what are our targets – what we truly want to achieve, what life we want to live, what we want to do – not what was told us that is possible and what not, but what we truly want!
If there were no such a thing as money, what would you choose to do, how would you spend your time? Take into account that you were sent to the Earth to be creative, to create something that contributes to the development of the planet. I know that being all day on a beach it’s awesome. It gives you time to relax, to enjoy, to calm down yourself and get in touch with the nature, but this is not something you would like to do every day to the rest of your life because you are not creating. As already mentioned, you were sent to the planet to create amazing things – this is your purpose.
♥ LESSON NUMBER 2 ♥
So, now we have determined our targets. Write them down as they have already become true. Include the part of being grateful for your achievement. Take a look at the following example.
| Dear Universe, I am so grateful and thankful for running a fashion company that creates fabulously beautiful, modern and elegant clothes. I work with truly talented and gifted people whose passion is fashion world and are so grateful for working with me. And not to mention all satisfied customers! They adore my company and can’t wait for launches of new collections. It exceeds all my expectations! |
♥ LESSON NUMBER 3 ♥
Next lesson is to visualize this dream. Creative visualization is the science of realizing your dreams, and desires into clear and vivid images in your mind. In other words, you are able to see your desire fulfilled and feel real emotions. Emotions help you dramatically accelerate your manifestation. I’ve mentioned that most of what we absorbed was negative, right? That's why is so important to do visualizations. Because when we visualize, we visualize the life we want to live - full of joy and happiness. This signals our subconscious mind what we want to experience and it starts to search for ways how to bring what we visualize to our physical realities. Subconscious mind doesn't separate what is real and what is just imagination - it takes everything as it's real. Often imaginary things will cause your body to respond in the same way as real things. In this way, creative visualization tricks your subconscious into believing that what you want is already in existence.
| When you feel things before they exist, that’s when the Universe creates your new life. |
But what many people do wrong when visualizing is that they forget on EMOTIONS, they see, smell, hear... but they don't feel. And is understandable because emotions can be very hard to evoke. We have to look for resources that can evoke emotions.
The master in this field is definitely Lisa Nichols. She gives an excellent guidance during her visualization sessions because of her great ability to provoke emotions within you. This is essential! You have to feel strong emotions during the visualization in order to make your dreams reality. And she is extraordinary! You can experience her visualizations sessions HERE. I just want to warn you that you may cry during her sessions. But that’s the power, the beauty, and the most important, the KEY for creating a life of your desires!
♥ LESSON NUMBER 4 ♥
Next lesson is to control your self-talk. Normally people talk to themselves in a negative way. Be very careful, because telling yourself thoughts like “What a jerk am I!” will make you even bigger jerk in the future, or “I am sooooo fat!” will gain you even more weight in the future.
| Like attracts like. |
There are plenty of solutions. I’m going to mention three of them.
POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS – An affirmation is a sentence about something you state as a fact. We all use affirmations all the time, that’s why they are affecting our lives all the time! Wouldn’t it be great to turn them into the ones that support your wishes and desires so that you can create more joyful life based on your rules?
LOFTY QUESTIONS – Instead of asking yourself “Why am I so fat?” ask yourself “Why am I getting slimmer every day?” At first you may not believe it. This is a process and it takes practice and time to get stronger and stronger.
DOING WHAT YOU LOVE – Every day spend at least few minutes doing what you like to do. This exercise is important because it raises your vibrations (your mood). Our dreams and desires vibrate at high frequencies. In order to manifest them, we have to vibrate at the frequencies of our dreams. Simple as 1 plus 1 equals 2. Feeling most of the time fabulously amazing even though our dreams are still not physically present is the key. What do you love to do? It could be really anything. It just has to make you feel fabulously amazing, happy, satisfied and grateful for what you have right now, at that moment, no matter how big or small it is. Be grateful!
| Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough. (Oprah Winfrey) |
If you are not disciplined, you may want to take a look at daily positive affirmations workbooks I’ve created. They are based on daily positive affirmations for love, health, wealth, creativity, business, negativity removal and weight loss. Every day for the next 28 days you work with different daily positive affirmations (I call them declarations). You get as well a template workbook where you can write your own affirmations/declarations – you can even work with only one affirmation/declaration for 28 days or more if you decide so – Scott Adams, an American cartoonist, creator of the Dilbert comic strip, worked with only one affirmation for 6 months! And now he is living his dreams! Isn't it inspiring? Doesn’t it motivate you?
Workbooks are part of packages with bunch of extra bonuses. These packages help you stay in tuned with your desire, raise your vibrations on a daily basis and teach you lessons that are essential in a manifestation process. You can purchase them on Etsy HERE.
♥ LESSON NUMBER 5 ♥
Avoid negativity. We are receptors. We can feel feelings of a person who lives hundreds of kilometers away. What’s the worst, we make this person’s feelings, mostly negative, ours. We make this person’s pain ours. Have ever happened to you that all of the sudden you started feeling heavy, sad, having no will to continue doing what were you doing? It happens to me all the time. Here you can use the following technique. When this occurs, ask yourself the following question:
| Does it belong to me or to someone else? |
Listen to your body, to your inner voice called INTUITION. What does it say? If the answer doesn’t come in the moment, don’t force it to come. Ask it again. If after several repeated questions still doesn’t show up, the emotion you are feeling belongs to the Earth. The Earth wants something from you. If this is the case, simply let the Earth take from you what it wants – imagine the white light flowing from your body to the Earth and say “Earth, take whatever you need from me.”
| In 99,99% cases all emotions that we feel do not belong to us. |
It is said that if you ask this question for every emotion you feel for 3 consecutive days, you'll end up discovering that nothing, absolutely nothing belongs to you.
Apply this method as well. You really have nothing to lose, except some heavy energy that blocks you :)
Oh, and stop watching, listening and reading news. The problem is that the news carries a lot of heavy energy based on negativity. Furthermore, avoid hanging out with negative people because
| your life is the average of the people’s lives you hang out with most of the time. |
This one can be very difficult one because these negative people can be our family members or co-workers or friends. I have a solution for that challenge as well :)
Look at the situation from a different perspective. Let everything be just an interesting point of view. Let’s look at one example, you are having a coffee with your friend who complains all the time. Try to explain him or her that complaining brings even more situations that produce complaining – like attracts like. If he or she doesn’t stop complaining and you don’t want to just walk away, DO NOT START COMPLAINIG YOU AS WELL!! Don’t do it just to please him or her – by doing that you are harming yourself!
Have you ever asked yourself what would people talk about if complaints, judgments and slander didn't exist? About nothing - there would be no topic to discuss because most of the people are negatively programmed meaning that they just can’t talk about anything else except their problems. They complain all the time, and judge and blame others for their miserable life.
Returning to our example, instead of complaining take his or her complaint as an interesting point of view. When you take situations based on negativity and heavy energy, or situations that you are not interested in, as an interesting point of view, you don’t agree or disagree with the situation – it is just an interesting point of view. When your friend complains, say to yourself or even to him:
“This is maybe true for you but not for me. I consciously create my life based on my dreams and take baby steps toward the fulfilment of my dreams every day. I create. And all that you are sying is just an interesting point of view.”
This is the right approach to the negativity. Say the same sentence when you discover that something bad is going on. It could be true for persons involved but not for you.
We can’t just avoid negative people, but we have to protect ourselves from their negative energy that poises us. I’m not telling that negative people are bad people. Not at all. I’m sure that they are wonderful human beings. Their problem is that they are trapped in their dramas and not willing to do at least one baby step to get out of it. And it’s somehow understandable because
| self-development is a long process, just like any other official education. It takes time, energy, money, daily learning, daily practice, and it’s everlasting process – we learn all the time, till the death. But if you are a good student, you can very fast discover techniques that work for you and apply them every day. What’s more, you keep learning and adding new methods to the current ones every day. |
But everything starts with you. You have to take that first step and decide if you want to be awesome or not, if you want to create an amazing life based on your dreams and desires or not. You have to start control your thoughts, your self-talk, your circle of friends, your daily habits. YOU.
| If you won’t, the others will. |
| Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact, and that is, everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you … the minute that you understand that you can poke life … that you can change it, you can mould it … that’s maybe the most important thing. (Steve Job) |
♥ LESSON NUMBER 6 ♥
Failure. There will be failures on the journey toward your dreams.
| I ask myself: are defeats necessary? Well, necessary or not, they happen. When we first begin fighting for our dream, we have no experience and make many mistakes. The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and get up eight times. So, why is it so important to live our personal calling if we are only going to suffer more than other people? Because, once we have overcome the defeats — and we always do — we are filled by a greater sense of euphoria and confidence. In the silence of our hearts, we know that we are proving ourselves worthy of the miracle of life. Each day, each hour, is part of the good fight. We start to live with enthusiasm and pleasure. Intense, unexpected suffering passes more quickly than suffering that is apparently bearable; the latter goes on for years and, without our noticing, eats away at our soul, until, one day, we are no longer able to free ourselves from the bitterness and it stays with us for the rest of our lives. Having disinterred our dream, having used the power of love to nurture it and spent many years living with the scars, we suddenly notice that what we always wanted is there, waiting for us, perhaps the very next day. (Paulo Coelho) |
When you determine what your dreams are and what you want to achieve in your life, you have to overcome the fear of failure that blocks most of us.
| Take every failure as a lesson. |
There will be failures because they are the only way The Universe teaches you what you have to learn to become a person you want to become and live a life you want to live.
Be grateful for them! I know it sounds silly but if you look at them deeper you’ll see that every failure really carries an important lesson. Don’t ignore it - learn it.
| And then will come one day when you’ll be facing a challenge where will be really essential not to fail – and you will not because you have already learnt what you had to learn to manifest your dream. |
Try to find in every situation, no matter how terrifying it is, something you can learn. Have in mind,
| sometimes shit just needs to happen in order to manifest our dreams. |
Trust, just trust.
| I don’t believe in failure. It is not failure if you enjoyed the process. (Oprah Winfrey) |
And Oprah takes us to the next lesson.
♥ LESSON NUMBER 7 ♥
Why do we want something to achieve, to accomplish, to create, to manifest? Because it brings happiness, it makes us happy.
Manifesting your dreams is a process that takes us to destination, which is our dream.
| The destination should never be happiness – happiness is a state of mind, not a goal or target. You have to enjoy the journey! If you don’t, you will never manifest what you desire – like attracts like. |
Here is where most of people do mistakes as well. They think that they will be happy, when their dream comes true. They are postponing their happiness. If you go back to the lesson number 4 where we are mentioning vibrations and frequencies,
| the key is to be at the highest vibrating level possible most of the time. Our dreams, desires, goals... vibrate at very high frequencies. |
Taking into account that like attracts like, in order to manifest what you want you have to raise your vibrations (your mood) on levels of hope, love, faith, enlightenment, sex (read about sex transmutation method